How to Tell People What You Do

How to Tell People What You Do | Dominique D. Wilson

There's nothing more startling than being asked, "So, what do you do?" during small talk at a dinner party.

 

If you've ever felt awkward or like a deer in headlights after being asked this—it's not you, it's honestly a terrible question.

 

And here's why...

 

When someone asks what you do, what they really want is to get a logical understanding of who you are in an attempt to build a human connection—they just don't know how else to articulate that.

 

BUT, here's the problem...

 

Logical human connection is an oxymoronic concept. We connect through emotion.

 

Putting people in boxes and categories with labels won't give us a sense of who they are, and makes it pretty difficult to give an answer that makes sense. 

 

BUT,

 

I can guarantee that it will happen time and time again, simply because it's an easy conversation starter.

 

So, the next time you're asked this terrible question, I've got a 3 tips to help you provide a succinct response with clarity and confidence.

 

TIP #1: KEEP IT PRESENT

 

Even if you haven't yet gotten your first client, always speak in the present tense when discussing your spiritual business.

 

Keep in mind that what you focus on increases—it's the law of attraction.

 

Neale Donald Walsch explains this perfectly in Conversations With God Book 1 when he says, "Remember, you cannot have what you want, but you may experience whatever you have."

 

In other words, saying things like, 'I want to work with people who....,' 'I'm thinking about starting...,' or 'I will be a...' only makes it true,

and you'll attract more want instead of wealth.

 

Instead, try saying something like, "I am a........and I help...." 

 

Saying I AM is a powerful affirmation.

 

Don't be afraid to step into your greatness now—you don't need to wait for someone else's permission or certification to speak the truth about who you are and who you're called to help.

 

TIP #2: KEEP IT PERSONAL

 

When someone asks you what you do, your answer should be unique to you. You can keep it personal by using short, simple 'I' statements.

 

“Comparison is an act of violence against the self.” —Iyanla Vanzant

 

The surest way to erode your confidence, water-down your message, and stunt your momentum is to compare yourself to others in your industry or niche who have a seemingly similar business, but larger following.

 

When you’re just starting out as an entrepreneur and you haven’t yet found your voice, it’s natural to want to model your mentors, industry influencers, and people who inspire you.

 

BUT,

 

You must be careful not to develop an expectation of having their results because you are not them. 

 

 

If you try to be like them, sound like them, write like them, and use their jargon—you will lose your sense of self, encounter creativity blockages, and your ideal clients will end up confused.

 

As they say, confused buyers don't buy.

 

So, when someone asks you what you do, it you first thought is, 'What would so-and-so say?', then you know you're not answering based on integrity.

 

Just keep it personal by saying things like, "I use my story as the basis to help...," "I believe that...," "I enjoy working with..." "I am most passionate about..."

 

When you stop comparing yourself to others, you will avoid the self-judgment that causes you to overshare, ramble, or say things that aren't in alignment with your highest values.

 

Regardless of what other people are doing—what most important to the success of your business who you are being.

 

TIP#3: KEEP IT SIMPLE

 

When speaking about what you do, it's best to assume your listener knows nothing about your industry, and only has about 30 seconds to get it.

 

Keep it simple by avoiding extra adjectives, fancy jargon, and industry-specific language. 

 

You don’t need to tell people your title, explain your belief system, justify why you do what you do, or teach them about how your service works—unless they specifically ask.

 

Instead, just tell them what problem you solve and who you solve it for.

 

If a 5th grader would be confused by your answer, then it’s probably too complex.

 

I can’t tell you how many people reply with “what’s that?” when I tell them I’m a Reiki Master Teacher.

 

Although it’s easy to think people are familiar with what you do because we live in the information age—most of them really aren't.

 

Remember, your work is something that you are inspired by, and have spent years reading and learning about. They probably haven't.

 

So rather than saying you’re a past-life regression therapist or spiritual coach, you might instead say something like,

 

“I help women to heal emotional trauma, and create a happier life.”

 

When you keep it simple, you’ll avoid oversharing, justifying and rambling—all of which can lessen your confidence, and confuse your listeners.

 

YOUR ASSIGNMENT

 

Practice using the power of your "I AM." Post your What I Do statement below in the comment section. Remember to keep it present, personal, and simple.

 

I look forward to reading you empowering statement.

 

Here's to your confidence + happiness + success!

 

In Peace & Beauty,

Dominique

 

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