4 Steps to Discover Your Purpose

4 Steps to Discover Your Purpose by Dominique Wilson

4 Steps to Discover Your Purpose | Dominique D Wilson

Because we live in the information age with access to the internet at our fingertips, most of us are blessed with an abundance of knowledge—well beyond what we actually need  to know.

However, this is also why so many of us struggle to understand out life's purpose.

From childhood, society rewards you for acquiring knowledge and recalling it from time to time...

BUT,

We're not taught how to apply our knowledge in a selective, meaningful way that truly is aligned with who we are as individuals.

In a nutshell, discovering your purpose boils down to being clear on who you are (soul identity), what you do (behaviors and decisions), and how the two complement each other.

So many people rely on what they Do to define who they ARE, but this only leads to unfulfillment and a poor life balance.

What you do is a vehicle to express more of who you are into the world.

So, who are YOU?

Do you know what you were born to do?

In this post, I've laid out 4 Steps to Discover Your Purpose: Determine your core values, Identify Your Key Strengths, Accept Your Unique gifts, and Take Inspired Action.

 4 Steps to Discover Your Purpose by Dominique Wilson

Step 1: Identify Your Core Values

Core values are what you consciously or unconsciously seek to gain & keep throughout life in order to experience personal happiness and fulfillment. 

Values drive your behavior, and influence your perception of the world.

They determine whether you’re naturally inspired to take action, or require external motivation. You can tell when something is a value to you because you are naturally driven to do it, and never seem to tire of it!

Happiness is the results of living in alignment with your highest values because authenticity allow you the freedom to just be YOU.

Values are demonstrated by your present lifestyle and circumstances. They're not simply positive traits you pick from a list.

Values are deep, core desires that motivate you from within to think, speak, and behave the way you do—whether you're aware of them or not.

This is why it's so important to determine your values.

How can you be certain about your alignment with the business, relationship, job, home, friends, or possessions you bring into your life if you don't know your values?

When you know your core values, making decisions and being assertive becomes a lot easier: If it supports your values, it's a YES. If not, just say NO.

Any time you're living outside of your values, you will experience stressful emotions (anger, frustration, bitterness, resentment, share, guilt, sadness, loneliness, etc.). 

So rather than trying to escape stressful emotions—simply notice and thank them for their feedback because they're only letting you know that you're out of alignment with who you are.

 Step 2: Define Your Character Strengths

Your top strengths are characteristics of your personality that arise from your core values.

They determine the way you think, communicate, work, socialize, solve problems, and relate to the world around you.

Research continues to show that people who use their strengths on a daily basis are 3 times more likely to report an excellent quality of life, and 6 times more likely to be engaged at work.

When you know your core values and you've identified your key strengths,  you can determine whether or not a person, idea, situation, or decision will have long-term benefit for you.

You can easily look at a business idea, job description, resume, dating profile, etc...and see whether or not buy in.

You can also take another look at your relationships and see if the conflict you've been experience is simply a strength that being overly expressed or repressed.

Repressed strengths lead to boredom, resentment, frustration, disengagement, and conflict.

So, imagine how much control you will have over how your life demonstrates once you learn to identify your strengths, and make adjustments to leverage them for your benefit.

Step 3: Accept Your Unique Gifts

Each of us enters this life with a unique set of gifts that empower us to be more authentic while sharing value with one another.

Because your gifts are natural to you, it's easy to overlook them.

I spent years searching for my purpose in school, work, church, books, videos, seminars, my marriage—you name it!

BUT, at the same time...

I was teaching self-empowerment workshops to elementary school girls in public schools, hosting study groups, tutoring other students, teaching guitar lessons in the community, designing curriculum for pre-K students, posting inspirational blogs about my life lessons, sharing motivational videos, performing open-mics with songs I wrote about following your dreams, and walking people through my step-by-step process of planning a home birth...

Whoa! How the heck did I miss the connection and value in all of that?

You see, I was living my purpose the whole time, but diminishing it as "a little thing I do on the side."

Can you relate?

Teaching, speaking, writing, inspiring, empowering, motivating, connecting dots that others can't see, long-term visioning, innovation—these are my spiritual gifts!

Once you accept your gifts, and link them to your core values and key strengths—you'll open a new realm of possibilities for your life, relationships, career, health, etc.

You'll also start to see how every time you've been unhappy in life, it was because you were either not living in alignment with your values, repressing your strengths, or you weren't using your natural gifts.

An example of repressing you strengths: If one of your key strengths is innovation, and you work in a job where you're ideas are not valued or able to be expressed—you will become less engaged because the nature of that job simply isn't inspiring to you.

Accepting you gifts is a huge part of your self-empowerment. You can read more about self-empowerment in my post entitled, The Power of Owning Your Story.

Step 4: Take Inspired Action

"When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it." —Paulo Coelho

Self-expression is what actually brings about the results of self-awareness—it's about taking inspired action.

Got too many ideas floating in your head? Check out my recent post entitled, 5 Reasons to Start Blogging.

You can know yourself inside out, but you will not experience the fulfillment of what this life has to offer you unless you DO SOMETHING with it.

Knowledge of Self + Inspired Action = Purpose 

This is why I started Everything She Touches. I use my gifts of inspiring, educating, and empowering others to see their own brilliance in a way that allows me to grow, while being authentic.

What began as small handmade self-care product line teaching women the value in self-love, has now evolved into a personal development company. 

After my divorce, I finally realized what was missing in my life—ME.

I simply wasn't showing up authentically, and it created a sense of emptiness that I kept failing to fill.

I was so busy living out my dreams in my head, and would-ing, could-ing, should-ing myself...

That I got complacent, then lost, then stuck.

I didn't take action, and it literally cost me years of unnecessary unhappiness, confusion, frustration, resentment, and unfulfillment.

You CANNOT discover your purpose by simply absorbing information.

You MUST take inspired action. Life is a co-creative process and your ability to grow depends on how you take action.

If you're still waiting for more clarity, assurance, confidence, or permission to take the first step toward your dream,

...could be starting a blog or business, giving a speech, writing a book, leaving a toxic relationship, moving to a new city, starting a new career, creating your first livestream—what ever it is for you.

Just know that clarity does not come by standing still.

Usually we don't feel ready when we're about to do something new or different.

That fear is simply a beautiful part of the human intelligence designed to protect you from eminent danger (such as a nearby hungry lion).

Starting your new life can provoke the same fear, so just remind yourself of that so that you can get started (and that you will NOT get eaten by a lion when you do).

As we grow, shift, and take inspired action—life moves with us in beautiful dance because self-awareness is an ongoing process of realizing more of who and what we are by reconnecting with the source of our being.

To realize means to become fully aware of, clearly understand, and cause something to happen.

THEREFORE,

You are both the cause and the effect of how your life demonstrates.

No. You can't control what other people do, say, or think—you're not responsible for that.

But, you are 100% responsible for how you choose to perceive, respond to, and show up in the world.

This freedom of choice is the secret to your personal power.

Here is a power affirmation that's been helpful on my journey:

"Life isn’t happening TO me, it’s happening FOR me reveal a greater expression of who and what I AM."

YOUR ASSIGNMENT

1)  Answer the following in your journal: To what degree does what you do (job, relationships, lifestyle) allow room for you to be yourself, use your gifts, and strengths?

2)   Post a comment below with 1 inspired action you can take this week in the direction of your dreams.

I look forward to reading your comments :)

Stay Empowered!

In Peace & Beauty,

Dominique

P.S. If you are in a transitional period in your journey and you would like support with defining your new vision, determining your values and strengths, and letting go of what's holding you back so that you can create the life you were meant to live—I'm happy to help. Click the button below to learn more about my Know Yourself 90-Minute Private Intensive.

So if this sounds like something you need, I'd love to talk with you. Click the button below to learn more about my Express Yourself 90-Minute Private Intensive where you can get 1-on-1 support to start creating the life, blog, business, movement, or cause you want!

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1-on-1 mentoring in self-discovery with Dominique in a private, 90-minute session. Get clear on your values, strengths, personal mission statement so that you can begin creating a lifestyle that is in alignment with who you really are. Your investment includes 90 minutes of private coaching via phone or Zoom virtual conferencing platform, a follow-up email summary, and an MP3-audio recording of your complete session. PLUS get 1 week of unlimited email support following your session.

1-on-1 mentoring in self-discovery with Dominique in a private, 90-minute session. Get clear on your values, strengths, personal mission statement so that you can begin creating a lifestyle that is in alignment with who you really are. Your investment includes 90 minutes of private coaching via phone or Zoom virtual conferencing platform, a follow-up email summary, and an MP3-audio recording of your complete session. PLUS get 1 week of unlimited email support following your session.

1-on-1 mentoring in self-discovery with Dominique in a private, 90-minute session. Get clear on your values, strengths, personal mission statement so that you can begin creating a lifestyle that is in alignment with who you really are. Your investment includes 90 minutes of private coaching via phone or Zoom virtual conferencing platform, a follow-up email summary, and an MP3-audio recording of your complete session. PLUS get 1 week of unlimited email support following your session.

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